Is it just me or is this really out of character for someone who says they are done and seeing someone else. I don't get it, I would have expected her to be pulling back and avoiding me but she isn't.
Here's my guess: she feels that she can -- or even feels like she really ought to -- try to salvage the platonic part of your relationship while jettisoning the romantic/sexual part of it. She probably thinks it's the right thing to do, as well as it makes her feel less guilty about what she's doing to your child. And since she's under major duress right now, her judgment about all of this is probably all messed up.
Regarding being a family despite a divorce/separation ... I think there is not a clear line on what's appropriate. My impression is is that some couples manage being able to do lots of things together with their kids, while others have to stay completely separate. Probably there are many who are in the middle.
So, I think for some couples, doing a single birthday celebration for a child does make sense. But I can see that for you, given how volatile and painful your current relationship is, it would make little sense to try to do it together.
Just my $0.02's worth....
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
