I told you I'd comment back on the detachment thing, and how I think people on these forums have the process all wrong, but I'm about to head to IC right now and I'll post when I get back. There are a few people that understand it on here, and unfortunately, I think it's one of those things that is almost unexplainable in nature, like, you won't know it, until you've reach it, and until you reach it, there is no defined path on how to get there...
Sotto makes the good point up there, and it really isn't about "detaching from someone"... it's about "re-attaching to yourself, that's a great way to put it, so thanks to Sotto for pointing that out, and thanks to Vanilla as well, a much simpler version of what I was conjuring up. But I've done a lot of reading and writing on the topic, so I'll post my own thoughts when I get back from IC.
Also SuperHawk makes a good point that I left out about dealing with boundaries: Second, [quote=SH_Come up with a short list of statements [/quote] and just to add on this a bit, PRACTICE THEM. This may sound silly, but I can remember a couple instances where I knew "how" to remain calm and say what I had wrote down I wanted to say, but choked under the pressure. When someone's pushing all your buttons to make you go mad, it's hard to stick to plan. Come up with statements for different scenarios, and practice them, once you figure it out, it becomes second nature and you can deal with the fluxuations.
