Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

[JRuss]

albac -- I also meant to add that I do find myself wondering if maybe, since I'm only a month into real DBing (and still not that great at it), and we're still only a month removed from her being on the cusp of moving out (something she'd discussed with these "friends" and gotten their support to do, so I'm sure there's been some follow up, i.e., so what happened that you're still at home?), that maybe she feels this way now, but maybe won't, say, next year (if I keep strong, keep DBing, make myself a man only a fool would leave).

But that's the antithesis of detaching, isn't it? I really, honestly have no idea how to detach. It seems impossible and, really, like a bit of a disconnect around here. No one with hope is "detached". The detached ones -- arguably the ones who read the happiest in most cases -- have given up hope and have moved on. Or so it seems to me.