#46 Tomorrow is Another Day

[kat727]

I am taking a much needed week off, where I will just be working my second little job because I need the moola. It is all remote though and I can break up the time so I can still do stuff.

The girls are both seeing a counselor to help with depression and anxiety. I am seeing D17's dark moods lesson and when they do occur it is for a shorter period of time. She has seemed to be able to be a bit closer and talkative with me since she started going so I am happy. It does take a chunk out of the day every two weeks but I have been able to have the boys help me some so that I am not taking off so much.

My parents cancelled the 4th at their house because they are afraid of Zika. We, my kids and I, are still going to do something, I just don't know what. It's funny the girls will mention you guys in conversations and bring up stuff they want to do next time in Colorado. Got to save some money up and we will try again but D17 has to be driving because that 7.5 to 8 hours by yourself is not fun.

I do remember when I moved out to North Carolina and the drive didn't bother me at all, so it really must be age. That and that I am constantly pushing myself to go,go,go. I don't have the girls this weekend so I can get some extra time in and some extra sleep too. Also going to get this application in for a job I am interested in.
S23 cam by work today and was just angry and a big mass of negativity! I told him I do believe that one person can make a difference but it does take time. He is mad about Brexit (did you see the article that most Britain's didn't know what they were voting to get out of and/or if they had understood, they wouldn't have voted to leave!!! Yes that upsets me too. Just another day in the life of the mother of four!

Hope your a/c gets fixed soon. It is a tad cooler her but yep over a 100 for a couple of days.

kat

[kat727]

Finally did something I should have a long time ago. I have had a tight year financially with things that ex and I had replaced when we bought our house starting to break, now that I have lived there almost 22 years. I don't go to movies much so I splurge a bit on my cable TV. It is just crazy though, so I called to see how I could get my bill lower, what I needed to cut. Anyway the gal I spoke with was super nice and got me over to the loyalty program when she couldn't help as much as she hoped. Well I got to keep everything I had plus got another extra premium channel and save $35.00 a month for a year. It will go up next July but she told me to call back then and they could see what they were able to do then. Just goes to show that it never hurts to ask, plus I kept talking about how I could save going through sling.;)

Maybe this will inspire someone else to make a call.

kat

[JksD]

Kat, I totally agree with you. I am always amazed at what I can get when I ask for what I want. That is if I ask nicely. And never mind if I didn't even think that I was going to any leeway in the beginning.

[kat727]

My heart just broke a bit. My oldest son's girlfriend called me today at work to tell me she had cheated on him!! I think I was in shock most of the conversation but couldn't think why she was telling me this. When I spoke with my son, he said it was her punishment. WTH??

I told him that right now they both needed to step back and not try to hurt each other more. They live together, their lease just renewed. I have a financial obligation if this all goes kaboom(silly of me). Of course I understand everything that comes with this, the hurt, the anger. the fact that whatever happened occurred with his best friend/who is like a third son to me. My head is spinning and I just want to give him good advice. As a reminder, I didn't come here until my marriage was already going through the courts, so I didn't have support while this was playing out in the beginning.

This was the girl he wanted to marry. He kept telling that I had been right all along and that he should have listened to me. I just told him that I didn't think it was a good idea to live together until they got their lives going sort of stuff.

Thank goodness my boss is gone, because I have been a bit of a mess the last couple of hours. Words of wisdom?

kat

[AndrewP]

DB coaching and the books?

It sounds like they both want it to work out.

[kat727]

I hope so. I still have the books somewhere but I also right when it happens you aren't thinking straight. I have been paying it forward here fro several years but it just feels like a punch to the stomach when it is your own family.

Thanks Andrew. Sorry for what you are going through, trying to save your marriage isn't for the faint of heart.

kat

[Underdog]

I'm off to a client site in a few minutes, but I can talk this evening if you want or need.

xxxooo

[kat727]

I very well may take you on it. Thanks, Bets.

kat

[Ginger1]

Kat! Omg, I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine the shock you must have had when you received that phone call. That being her "punishment" must mean he wants to work this out.

When it happens to our kids, we take a bigger hit. Do you think it is in your son's best interest to work this out?

Maybe this is a time for them to both realize they have lots of stuff to work out before they take this any further and they will concentrate on getting their lives sorted.

I'm sorry you are your son are going through this. I hope everything works out for the best.

hugs

[kat727]

I see it as a one time event and not an ongoing thing. I believe it is a wake up call that it is time to make some changes and not take each other for granted.

I felt as if I was punched in the stomach honestly. I did message her and let her know it was going to take real work to make things right, that I loved her but the best thing right now as to give each other space and to not hurt each other with words.

Got a bit more perspective talking to Bets last night. So we shall see what comes.

kat