Good to hear you were not involved in contacting other women. Here is what I've learned about long talks about the relationship. In many cases, it is more one-sided than equally balanced from each spouse. But the largest thing is how it is an emotional valve. It allows you to release some of that negative feelings........and in return, you feel better, even hopeful about the next coming days. However, emotions are one part and actually having a solid plan and doing the daily work.......is not fun. It takes self discipline and outside support.
My first thoughts about your W pulling back is that she has not stopped her activity of contacting other men. She needs to shut down all the chat rooms and dating sites, and she needs to block access to every man on her phone and computer. You can't just take her word.......you need to see that she truly has taken action to remove them.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
