I don't see it as an easy call ... but I think you did the right thing, telling her you know. The key, as I see it, is that you told her (fairly?) calmly and w/o much emotional baggage. So (I think) you made it all about honesty, integrity and loyalty, not anger and jealousy. That seems the right thing to do.
Hopefully she'll "woman up" and start being honest with people in her life.
Thank you. Seriously. It was so hard to let go of the fear to tell her, as was told here I had to be ready for the consequences. Your thinking is correct, I made it all about those things. I feel better for me at any rate. Still feeling it today. Still think of her, but thinking of her feels different.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
