Detaching.....nearly there..

[Surfer]

My W is perhaps a typical WW who is frustrated. I am typical LBH trying to hear but just hearing shouting and frustration as it becomes directd at me in anger.

We are discussing the school holidays and who has the kids, when et . I feel I am being played, but am taking some good advice to stop second guessing what she is up to (detach) and just take the kids and have fun.

However my WW gets frustrated when I don't give her answers now or how she wants me to answer in terms of when I can have the kids - starting up a new business so I am probably coming accross as indecisive or cagey but I have explained I am not trying to be difficult I am just trying to take this into account also. Regardless, in a normal situation this is no big deal. However, this is not normal and my WW typically gets very frustrated - a lot, over simple things.

She did on the puns just now and started escalating raising her voice, talking down, being a way that she would not get away with, with others. I need to come up with a better way of handling this. Today I got to a point and said "sorry your style of communicating right now isn't working for me and put the phone down - I did this pretty calmly - no drama." Then got texted and returned with "Sorry but this isn't working for me now. Let's talk later". I need something that I stick to. Any thoughts on how to handle this as I am sick to death of feeling like a doormat whilst my WW escalates a typically civil discussion in to global thermo-neuclear meltdown firing 'weapons hot' as I take it. B@lls to that. I need some help with this boundary please. Something based on experience that worked.