She's gone. Living in the now.

[Sotto]

Hi Scrant, good to hear from you my friend. Well, I would think her options at this stage would be to - a. Talk to OM about buying a flat or b. Resolve financials with you in order that you can both make financial plans for the future. I certainly wouldn't consider helping or collaborating with her in that endeavour. At this point, you are neither her husband or her friend.

You could always say to her - hey would you really want to be across the road from us and running into me with my new girlfriend at some point in the future?? I think she believes you will remain pickled in aspic, just as you are, for eternity. In truth, I don't think it would do any harm to dispel that myth.

Would it suit you to get financials resolved at this stage? If it would, you could always let her know that you're amenable to reaching an agreement. I understand about the situation with the flat, but that may become a reality for you if you want to stay there and you guys don't reconcile.

I always shake my head a little at your W's invites. Like, you might enjoy a mini-break with her when she ran off with another guy and would presumably be texting him and so on in any quiet moments - erm...no thanks. Your S is clearly not amenable to OM time either, which is fair enough and he is at an age where he is able to decide.

Why don't you take your own little break and plan some nice things? You could always let your W know you can discuss financials when she is back...

I hope none of my advice sounds harsh...I think I'm just in a little bit of a meh phase with these WS's who upend everyone's so lives around them to pursue their own gratification....so do take me with a pinch of salt today.

xx