In the past when she would go out with other women and they would talk about their husbands she would come back singing my praises because I do so much. That singing of the praises wouldn't even last till the next morning before it was back to the moaning and groaning about life, me, the kids...
That sounds very familiar to me. There are people who have very poor emotional memory, whose emotions are unregulated by memory, who will hand out profuse compliments instinctively to try to garner people's approvals, and once you're in their life and they no longer need your approval, they will treat you poorly. I think much of this behavior is rooted in low self-esteem.
Anyhow, you are wise to be thinking about your marriage, because if the status quo continues odds are fair that she'll drop the bomb on you some day, saying she's not getting what she wants out of the marriage.
Then you'll be asking us how to bust the divorce.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
