Just Tired

[TiredTN]

Reading some of the stories sometimes I feel like I don't have it bad enough to get a divorce. Here's some of my story.

My wife is from a somewhat abusive household.
Her dad hit her mom on occasion, but not her or her brother to the best of my knowledge.
Lots of yelling and screaming though.
Guess what happens in our house...lots of yelling and screaming.
Even when it's not being yelled there is a tone in the voice that says, "this is your fault" or "why are you asking me that" or "are you stupid".
And it's virtually all the time. For 15 years. We have sex about 9-10 times a year.
It's not good sex either.
We have never had an adult conversation about money.
If I bring the topic up it's, "okay, I'll stop spending money, we can't ever do this or we can't ever get that, or we'll never have, blah, blah, blah".
Lots of absolutist language.
We've been in counseling twice for several years.
We've read the five love languages.
Her languages, "gifts" and "service."
Mine are "words" and "touch."
As you can put together I am getting pretty much zero of my languages.
I help out with household chores, dinner, breakfast, lunch, I help with laundry, I help with bath time with the kids. In the past when she would go out with other women and they would talk about their husbands she would come back singing my praises because I do so much.
That singing of the praises wouldn't even last till the next morning before it was back to the moaning and groaning about life, me, the kids, it's raining, it's hot, it's cold...good god there isn't anything she doesn't complain about.
She complained last time we were at my mom's because my mom was warming up the food for supper.
I'm just freakin' tired.