Albac,
I can tell you by experience that pursuing her will only push her away. I pursued my W for almost 2 months and made things worst. Now I'm going dark. Not sure if it's working since it's been 5 days, but she has tried to make small talk. But remain dark.

Good luck, I know it's tough.

Me: 42
Her: 39
Kids: 2
ILYBNILWY: 5/17/2016
D-Day: 5/17/2016
Verified OM: 5/17/2016
Verified she told OM ILY: 5/21/2016
Moved Out: 5/19/2016