good direction or backsliding?

[ForGump]

1. I texted my SD birth father telling her I missed her.
2. My W's mother (who I'm trying to value more and build an actual relationship with) texted me she hopes I find happiness, I replied with "I hope I find it again with my family".
3. the neighbor asked if we were "dating" I said no, the neighbor told my W I said we were (yes a jerk neighbor, I was trying to be nice) & finally,
4. I came over unannounced to water the grass.

1. That seems OK to me.
2. This is not a good time for you to "build" a relationship w/ your W's mother. I would keep it very low key. But, just the simple text reply seems very benign to me.
3. I would've given the neighbor zero information. Say something like, "Sorry, I don't want to talk about it."
4. This is a bad time to care about the grass. Her space/privacy is far more important.

This is all the kind of stuff I might have done too -- it's just easier to make the call since I'm not in your shoes.

Your W's in a very sensitive place. I would give her wide berth in terms of space/privacy. Absolutely no more coming over unannounced, unless the house is on fire. No more text messages w/ your mother-in-law. But do what you believe is best for being a father to your child/children.