New here and separated

[Coly23]

Hi Raul, I am sorry you also find yourself on this board. I'm not sure if H is seeing anyone else. I have asked him and he has denied it but that doesn't mean anything as I have seen from some of the situations here. I think only time will tell. He is level headdd and quite the opposite to me as I am quick to react and wear my heart on my sleeve! He is also quite stubborn though and I think once he has made a decision he is inclined to stick with it even if he realises it might be the wrong one. I have decided to go 'dark' also but he does come around once a week to see my daughter and we have dinner together so it's not completely 'dark' but I have managed NC since last Friday and I feel it's getting easier. One thing I'm not sure about is he always kisses me when he arrives and leaves. I'm not sure if I should be encouraging that or discouraging it as at the end of the day he left me and said he didn't love me (although now back peddling) so why should I want him to kiss me! But then it makes me feel closer to him, it's so confusing! How long will you go 'dark' for and do you know if W is still in contact with OP?