As for kids I let my W field that one as it was not a mutual decision and I want my D to know that I value the relationship and am not giving up. What lesson does that teach them?
Conventional wisdom is that parents present the same story to their kids. Saying, "ask your Mom," doesn't sound like presenting the same story to me.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
