Rouky, No, you aren't a bad mother because you enjoyed "your" time alone to get things done. We all need those "me" times to recharge our batteries and yes, sometimes it is easier to do things around the home when the children are not there. So, please don't think you are a bad mother.
I'm glad you are finally understanding what we've been posting to you. It takes time for the advice to sink in, but when it does, the light bulb goes off and you begin to start moving forward and finding your footing once again. You will still have days of ups and downs, but don't allow them to get you down. Work through the things that make the down days and know that once you are on the other side of those down days, life is so much better.
You've got this! You now have a better understanding of what you need to do in order to live your life for you and your children and what will make you happy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
