Keep Wearing Wedding Band?

[JRuss]

ForGump -- how are you doing? You've been a really great poster in my thread and several others that I've been trying to follow, but you've posted very little in your own thread. How can we support YOU?

In rereading your sitch, it does as you noted sound a lot like mine. I know that your wife has told you she's not attracted to you and that she really never was, but remember the wise teaching (I think it was cadet originally?) to believe nothing that they say and only half of what they do. The fact of the matter is that very few women get married to a man and have a child or children with him if there's no attraction, so I do question that part. Your wife, if she's like mine, stored up grievances, perhaps for years, and it gradually caused her to lose sight of what moved her toward you initially. Do you have any visibility as to what those things are/were? Those are I think where you want your 180s to start if possible.

I'm also wondering if you are GALing. That has for me a lot of days been all I can point to that makes me feel even ok with myself. It can really be a godsend getting out and doing something, just for you (or, at least as much for you as your current level of detachment permits (I struggle with this mightily)).

Hang in there, Man. I hope you'll post more about your sitch in addition to continuing to be such a help to others here.