Sandi2 - here is my big question - is my wife a WW (since her obsession with her new community and work is like an affair and she did have an EA) or is she a WAW since we had years of mutual neglect and she finally got a life and realized that things should be better. But, in the mean time alienated me and detached from her teenage kids.
Whenever a woman walks away from her M, Kids, and home..........and she refuses to work with the H to save the M, it is usually b/c she has a wayward mindset. Even if she had left and took the kids with her.......it might have given a little room for some doubt......but when a mother leaves her kids behind (in cases such as yours), it is usually for selfish reasons. She's made new friends and had at least one A, that you know about, and walked away from her children. The selfishness and unwillingness is pretty obvious to me, but that's JMO. If you have not held back sharing some big reason that you know drove her out, and would cause her to leave the kids, then I, personally, can't see a just cause for her leaving. Some people do not tell the board everything they tell the coaches, so all we have are your posts.
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What is the right approach - build friendship, etc, etc or tough love? As it is my GAL is off the chart and the kids and I really are moving on without her. Even S10 see's mom more as a playdate then his mother these days.
As I have previously stated, MWD does not destinguish the WW apart from the WAW. From what has been reported here, their advice is to build a friendship. So, you will have to make that decision for yourself, Bigy. Do what works.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
