Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

[JRuss]

darknes -- very good advice. I really like the idea of flipping things around and counting good days. To your point re the inevitability of death, I actually don't and really never have feared dying or not realized it will happen one day. And no, I definitely don't count the days down towards the one that will be my last. It's actually kind of freaked my wife out over the years that I'm not as afraid of it as she is -- one thing she's said is life is too short to be unhappy. I do agree with that, but I obviously differ from her in thinking that the quickest, best way to happiness isn't divorcing, it's working together to create a new marriage that works for both of us. But I digress.

ForGump -- thanks for needed perspective. You are right. There is so much pain spread out here over so many people that it is helpful to remember that many, many posters here have it so much worse. That's not to say that my sitch won't eventually get worse or ever much worse, but right now, in this moment, it pales in comparison. Thanks again.

doodler and RSG -- thanks for the laughter!