Thanks. At least it's nice to know I'm not the only one who doesn't understand wtf they're doing! I don't see her often, but when I do see WW w/S now I see the woman I know and it makes me happy inside. I don't see the one who neglected him for 6+ months, who screamed at him for not going to bed an hour before he always did because she "had" to meet her trashy new friends (ie feed addiction), who only wanted to be his Mommy when it suited her.
Jeez, feel bad for your bro. I think my old lady knows that if we D, her silly idea of "being friends" is flushed. Or at least I'm trying to make that readily apparent.
Speaking of the pulse check. It seems like whenever I stand firm and ask her to do something, she follows through. I reminded her yesterday to check the cameras and that I'd update her around bedtime. Today? No texts. I've asked her not to go into the house unless S is with her, because I'm not comfortable. She did. I've told her not to speak to me in certain ways. She apologizes. I don't know what this means either lol. Is she just being nice so she can say she's being agreeable when D comes? Building brownie points for future use? Trying to temp check me? Genuinely trying to get along w/me? Ugh.
I too am starting to feel like others. I've hit a place, and I don't know how to keep going sometimes. I'm doing stuff for me, enjoying time with my boy, starting to do IC (next session supposed to be next T), feeling more and more positive about myself. But damn. I'm starting to feel like I just want a decision. I feel like I'm in limbo and it's awful. Patience is key, and I know I'm trying for S and the family he deserves.....but damn it's hard.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.