You're doing great, RDS. You're taking care of your W - this is something she really needs at this time. I wouldn't even worry about DBing at this stage.
I'm in the middle of piecing myself. My wife had such a nasty sinus infection, she was literally draining blood from her nose. I got her medication, took care of her, took days off from work to help her - you have NO idea how well this helped us in our recovery.
I think your W will see your efforts and understand that you really want her back. You cannot go wrong in taking care of her needs at this time.
Me: 52 Her: 48 2D 26 & 16 M: 25 years (together 30) EA/discovered by accident Valentines day 2016 Admitted SOME physical but no IC. We know that's a lie. Status - tryin to R