Detaching.....nearly there..

[Surfer]

Definitely confused. Lots of discussion yesterday lunchtime from WW about you never listen to me (called to sort out access with kids). She was very emotional so I listen and say I hear her. She tells me this 'distancing (by Surfer)' is not helping, she needs me to work with her (on a D). I drop her a text later in the day to see how she is doing and ask her a Kids based fact. No response (perhaps texting an OM?? - see earlier) last night but one early AM - just covering the kids. She is struggling to talk about anything other than the kids. If she doesn't want to talk, but is saying I don't listen and won't is this just 'fog', guilt based 'story', justification for 'actions' etc? Not sure - starting to annoy me though so time to detach as much as I can. Supposed to be going to see the kids swimming tonight - she will be there (I will take the kids home after). Thought it might a good to see her too and see if we can connect a little but not sure thats a good idea really. Detaching whilst wanting to connect too....its hard. Need to keep it about seeing the kids and not being needy as such.