My wife walked out 4

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She mentioned, again, that she sends me pictures why can't I keep her updated like that. She just expects me to behave like her H did in March or something. She did say thank you about 5 times, finishing with one and I left it at that.

For the life of me, this is so confusing. How does she actually think this is going to continue? Divorce means contact will be next to dead. Nothing but money for his tuition and discussing who has him the next week. Reconciliation means we work on being a family again, and she would be treated as part of the family again (ie I would do H things again, as long as she worked on being W of course).

RSG, first off, I get the same thing...the thank you's when I send a pic, the "why don't you"'s when I don't, the "I am sorry" when my 180's function. I think it i all guilt, it is all pulse check. That said, you are right about the W w/ the kids. When I see see my WW w/ my S4...well this is that most difficult time. Their love for each other is why I love them the most, and when I certainly love WW the most. Almost jealous, seriously, her love for S4 will never betray. But I am not jealous, I said almost, and I hope for S4's sake she remains pure to him always.
To your next paragraph which I included, it always continues. Yes, MWD states this clearly in her books, but I have seen it. My brother had a horrific divorce spawned by an affair his W had. He tried hard, but days before the net and/or knowledge of DB, perhaps nonetheless, his marriage failed. That was a long time ago. Yet now, as his D23 gets older, his XW is till always in his life, always calling to discuss D23's future, looking out. It never goes away man. D does not mean contact is ever dead if there is a kid involved. My brother has a future I do not want, he hates it because even though he has re-M, and so has XW (my brother's WW and AP bucked the stats, M for 12 years plus)he still wishes she would have found a way to R. Anyway, I feel your pressure. not sure that I assisted.