My wife walked out 4

[RSG]

At 7 (when I believe she gets out of the gym) text me 5 times and called me twice about little guy. We went up for bed around 7:30, and I finally answered the next text. I told her "I understand you're worried about him" but he had a good day, is tired and we are going to bed. She said why can't you just tell me that, you know I worry. Then said, is there a reason you're not keeping me up to date on him. I reminded her I would send her updates about his day at or around bed, and encouraged her to check out the cameras at school during the day.

She mentioned, again, that she sends me pictures why can't I keep her updated like that. She just expects me to behave like her H did in March or something. She did say thank you about 5 times, finishing with one and I left it at that.

For the life of me, this is so confusing. How does she actually think this is going to continue? Divorce means contact will be next to dead. Nothing but money for his tuition and discussing who has him the next week. Reconciliation means we work on being a family again, and she would be treated as part of the family again (ie I would do H things again, as long as she worked on being W of course).

All that said, I DO appreciate her worrying about him. That is the normal Mommy I know, and it's nice to see that part of her is coming back. But I resent being thought of and depended upon as a H without getting diddly in return.

Sandi, is there a way I could convey the italicized part without coming across as a complete jackass? I can see throwing it in there during a serious R talk because she does listen when we have them, but I'm not initiating that so I have no idea when one will occur again.