Kind of ironic that your wife is inviting you over for cake. Seems like she has been eating cake for the last 6 months. Under no circumstances do you go to her house. "Sorry you think otherwise but I am not going to miss her birthday. I will be celebrating it with her with my family."
Stop trying to figure out what your W's mindset is. Start worrying about yours. You have been Mr Nice Guy for 6 months. Time to truly GAL. What does that look like for you?
Stop beating yourself up. You stood up for your family and there is nothing more noble than that. Now shift your focus. Become an attractive albac again. That requires more strength than you have already displayed. Do you...don't do what you think she wants you to do. Right now YOU need space. You need to figure out what you truly want. And if it's your W back what you are doing isn't working and trust me she needs to earn your trust back. Do you really want her back in this scenario? Think about that. Read other sitches. Read my sitch. I was you. Focus on being an incredible Dad. There is nothing more rewarding in life.
Understand you may or may not get her back. But how you handle this is one of your defining moments of your adult life. Be strong. Be honorable. Not rude. Not petty. I can tell by reading your posts you're more than capable. You'll be fine. No matter what. You can handle it.
Strength and Honor.
Old Mules
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
