Need help please

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Still feeling beat up at the moment. Trying to make sense of what has happened and at the same time trying to stop thinking and just live.

I have read a lot of people's situations and I really can't find any similar to mine.

In my situation my W really seems to have fallen out of love with me and I know that I was a large part of the reasons that lead to this. Instead of cheating on me she simply told me she wanted to separate and left the next day. I should have seen the signs but didn't.

So now to her after 4 months separated where I thought we were making progress she is seeing someone else, then waits until after 6 weeks before telling me about it all the while at the same time spending what she calls family time with me and our D. It's like she wants a H and family when she feels like it but wants to be independent other times.

I can give my own 2x4 here. I allowed this to go on as I thought we were getting closer and things starting to look up. When I was actually sailing full steam ahead into the friend zone. Now I am aware of her seeing another man all of my thoughts and actions have changed. I am not a doormat or hanging on for scraps.

My question is has anyone been through a similar sitch and what did you do. Keep in mind my W is very young and i believe she is very very confused about everything in life right now and her actions say she has feelings and wants to be around me yet her words say the opposite. I think she is scared and doesn't know what to do.