Lost at the moment (2)

[lfm]

Surfer, I'm confused a bit by your last 2 posts. My W has not moved out, and neither have I. We are still in the MBR, sleeping in the same bed. But we close on a new house tomorrow, maybe that where you got the moving part?

Anyway, I'm planning on asking her to find another room in the new house to sleep in after we get settled in. I do still want to have the discussion with our kids this weekend, thinking that they can start to process the possibility of their parents getting divorced before school starts. I'd rather give them some time following that bomb drop without the added pressure of school.

As far as my previous posts, I think my decision is finally catching up with me a bit today. I'm feeling very sad this afternoon as I try to get things packed up for the move tomorrow. It doesn't help that in the middle of the night last night my wife curled up with me, putting her hed on my shoulder and arm across my chest. She said "This doesn't mean anything, but I cant' sleep." She fell asleep on my shoulder about 10 minutes later.

It was so very nice as I've missed having any sort of physical connection with anyone. Maybe that's contributing to my feeling of sadness today along with the packing up of things that I know at some point are going to be distributed between different households.

Back to your last post... That's the really weird thing. We communicate better now post BD than we have in many many years. We don't argue, and there is no indication to anyone including our kids that anything is wrong. In asking my W to find another room to sleep in, I'm hoping it allows me to dettach even further than I have at this point. It's really hard to detach when you lay in bed watching TV late at night and your STBX is sitting next to you.

Anyway... thanks for the continued support!