I think I'm at the point betterm arrived at a few weeks ago where I just don't give a sh1t anymore, and my communications are all over the place because I've just been saying whatever I want. What does it matter. There's very slim chance I'm in that 3% of people who's marriages can be saved. At least I've said what was in my heart.
If you don't care whether you are married anymore and don't care what kind of relationship you have with the mother of your children, then by all means, say whatever you want to make you "feel better" right now. It matters because it's about YOU. the DB "jiu-jitsu" is about learning to be a better communicator, it's about personal growth. Frankly, the DB process is not that complicated - it's basically about figuring out what you want and taking steps to achieve that. And when you review your status and change your goals, then walk towards those.
I liken the whole process to climbing Mt Everest - sure, you could do it yourself. You might even make it. But wouldn't you want guides and tools to help you succeed? And even if you hire the guides that lay it out perfectly and minimize all of the dangers, there's still a chance of bad weather or some other factors ruining your plans. I know if it were me, I'd want someone in my corner that had navigated the mountain hundreds or thousands of times before.
