Hi IP, A couple quick points I took away from other people's stories while trying to navigate my own sitch:
- A transition to piecing doesn't need to be instantaneous like flipping a light switch. Take it as slow as needed to see if the intent from your spouse is real and their actions match. - I've also seen a number of recommendations to specifically not let the WS (once gone) back into the house and/or MBR immediately even if you decide you are "piecing". It's fine to continue to live separate for a stretch while slowly trying out increased activities together to see how things go.
Me, WW - Upper 30s BD - Apr 1 2016 EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away) Confronted wife about EA - May 17 Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11