The lie continues...

[CT1118]

Originally Posted By: CT1118
I am trying to hang in there and see how that affects her A.

I have a very different opinion about the "hanging in there". First of all, it has no positive affect on her affair. If anything, she will pursue the affair as long as your actions are telling her that you are still there for her.

I believe it shortens the affair, considerably, if the WW sees she is losing the man she took for granted and treated badly. The longer he sticks around, the less she cares. My question is......what does he need to do to cause her to think she's losing him?

I am not saying the man has to go straight to divorce, if he doesn't want it. There are other ways of getting her to think she is losing him.

CT, you are thinking like a man...........not a woman, and especially a wayward woman! You could probably do the opposite of what you think and get a closer hit to her mindset.


Sandi, my response was indeed the opposite of what I thought, but it was also fairly curt at a time when that level had not been approached yet. I'm certain I want WW to think she is losing me, but in a good way where I stand firm and continue with self-improvement, not by making her think she made the choice of walking away because I am an a-hole.I responded back to WW stating that I would offer a solution in terms of discussing what the future week would look like and WW apologized to me for flying off the handle. I still stood my ground and kept my days as I wanted and WW left apologizing. Holy S this is a complicated communication tactic. Way out of my element, but learning and will be a better communicator in the regardless of what happens. Thanks to all for the 2x4's and support tactics. You are right Sandi and Darknes, I do not want a divorce and I am putting my patience in a cart and placing it before the horse. Day by day, day by day, day by day.
I have a great GAL tonight though for which I stood my ground on - going to learn how to rock climb, joined a rock gym. Hope to meet new positive people.