Both of you will need to stop doing the bad behaviors that got your MR into trouble. Like, drinking and flirting with others......texting & emailing "friends" of the opposite sex. That is not what a couple needs to do if they are trying to have a better M. I hope you will avoid going places that encourage those behaviors.
It won't be long before you will be tempted to fall back into those old patterns. It is not easy changing unhealthy patterns in life, but it is so worth it.
I hope you two will find a really good MC to guide you to stronger and happier grounds.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
