wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Raul]

Ok Sandi, here are the answers.

I actually had to sit and ponder the first question. Has my W had the same personality since M...Yes. And yes, if she did not get her way, or if I did something she did not like...she had mood swings.

I did whatever to make my happy, to an extend. If she wanted to go out and enjoy ourselves, I happily obliged. But I kind of drew the line if she wanted a $1,000 handbag. I told her she had many handbangs as it is. Now looking back, maybe I should have. I don't know. I also bought her a Cadillac Escalade, which I was against at first, but she needed it to take our daughters back and forth. So I gave in.Yes, you can say she had it her way in our marriage.

She wanted an SUV, we got it. She wanted a house, we got it. She wanted a baby, we did it. Her sisters would always tell me that I had to make a stand and not give in to her and to tell her no. When I stood up against my wife and told her no, I would be in the dog house for days. Recently, she wanted another baby, but she lost interest when I finally told her let's do it. So yes, if she asks for something, and if I try to look at the cons and pros, she becomes agitated. I used to tell her, we have a family, mortgage, bills that we have to first consider before we make a commitment. I would notice she would always compare our marriage to other women she knew at her job.

Our first daughter, she did not bond with her. She did not really spend much time with her, always at work. So I bonded with her and gave her both motherly and fatherly love. My W wouldn't even stay up with her when she was sick. She even made it known during family events that she had no connection with her. I had to pull her aside and told her to never say that again, especially if she is around. With our second daughter, yes. She bonded with her. She became the love of her life. To today, she makes it known. So she did treated them both differently. Often make a comment that the first daughter was mine and her second daughter was hers. She had no depression on either both pregnancies. She was so lovable and caring. On the second baby, she did take extra time off. What kind of bothers me now is now that she longer lives with us, she spoils the first one. Like trying to buy her love. I remember when I would make my W spend girl time with my first daughter. I would give her money to take her to the movies or the mall. Now she is being the mommy that I think she should have been. Recently, my W took off out of town to see family. She did not take our daughters. She was gone for 3 days. She made a comment on Friday that she left me our daughter because she knows that I need them more than she does. I was distraught with that comment. I wanted to tell her that was BS and that she doesn't want them because she wants the single life, but I didn't say anything.

About our sex life, it was great. I did not see any issues. We had it whenever we want to.

I recently had a conversation with her on 7/22. She called me screaming. She said she was mad and disappointment with me. I broke a rule Tuesday and went to her apartment late night. She refused to open the door. So I left after ringing her doorbell. It was her birthday and I wanted to see her. She made it clear again that she is divorcing me. She admitted that she cheated on me and lied to me many times. She said I am making her life miserable. I did not say anything. I let her rant then I hanged up. I have not talked to her in 4 days. She has text me to ask about our daughters, when she got home and she was tired. I did not respond nor answered her call on Friday.