I suppose I should start a new thread, because a new chapter has started. Me and my W are back together! We had a little rollercoaster ride and a long talk yesterday. She asked many questions and expressed herself. I answered all of them openly and honestly, even some big "life questions" that I have never expressed to her. I validated well and gave hugs for comfort where appropriate. I had some questions for her aswell that got cleared up. It's clear that both of us are going into this cautiously, which for us at this point is a good thing. We have made up before (never separated before this though) with the "fresh start" idea, but we never really learned anything new to maintain that idea. I made it clear that both of us need to continue to work on ourselves and not put these helpful tools down just because we are back together. As I mentioned before she has started reading some self help material which I think inspired this change as well as my difficult DBing! I wish I had found this forum earlier in this process, but I am glad I did when I did. It turns out she had already started the process of a D. I think she expected me to be upset when she told me, but I told her that it made sense because I was feeling like we were coming to a crossroads as well. So I have my ring back on, and I told her I am going to have to get her a new one which of course she is happy about. She's moved back into the MBR, although she looked nervous when I suggested it. But I get it. I got my first kiss/kisses in almost 3 years! Yeah, it's been a while. I held her while going to sleep, but didn't sleep that well unfortunately. I feel like it's going to take some adjusting to this new R to really feel totally comfortable with each other. I don't want to rush into everything too quickly and forget to continue working. I am making it a point to post updates here and keep personal notes to keep me on track. I would just like to say thank you to this community for all the support, tips and personal stories. It really pushed my progress over the plateua that I was at. It gave me strength to keep going when I wanted to quit, and for that I will always be grateful.
