JRuss, I know the pattern well! It hurts and sets back the detachment and brings false hope.
I'd like to offer a suggestion regarding classes. Imho I'd stay away from psychology classes right now. She could easily become defensive that you maybe analysing her and judging. I speak from my experience as my training is in psychology and it is a hindrance. I get accused of psychologizing him by what I say, and snooping when I'm just using my observational training. That's how I knew things were going on prior to BD. Anyway, just sharing experience.
Your experience with sex makes me rethink things for when I get home. I'm away for a few days to get myself together. I know he's moved back to mbr and I have no I intention to move out. Still not sure what to do about that. My DB coach said connecting with sex was my choice and no problem. I feel like, while it could be cake eating on his part, it is one less rejection he would feel and may assist in some good feelings about me. I will try to make it special and not be hesitant. Is there something she particularly likes that you could do? Not sure what if anything makes a difference with these MLC sufferers.
Anyway, despite the pain, it sounds like you are doing great dbing to me! If you find a detachment secret let me know! Colleen
Me54 WH48 S18 D16 M 22 T 24 EA-PA-EA 2011-2015 Separated 10/14 - 06/15 BD1 02/14 BD2 05/16 BD3 08/21/16 and began drinking again Working on me and liking me again
I know he's moved back to mbr and I have no I intention to move out. Still not sure what to do about that. My DB coach said connecting with sex was my choice and no problem. I feel like, while it could be cake eating on his part, it is one less rejection he would feel and may assist in some good feelings about me. I will try to make it special and not be hesitant. Is there something she particularly likes that you could do? Not sure what if anything makes a difference with these MLC sufferers.