Let me just say - why did I even bother with 'divorce busting'? 'DB' just seems to prolong the suffering, it would have just been easier to go full 'no contact' as soon as the BD. In fact just going 'full no contact' would probably be healthier psychologically and more effective than the whole mental jiu jitsu of 'DB'.
I'm very confused as to what you would have done differently.
The first step to climbing out of a hole is to stop digging. It doesn't matter what you call it, you have to stop digging. Even with your most recent text message, you aren't stopping. Why would you send that out of the blue and be irritated she didn't respond...? Because you had some expectation on her that it may DO something positive for you.
In my opinion, no, divorce busting does not save every marriage. It can't possibly claim to do that. I'd guess it saves about 3% of the marriages of the people who come here. Maybe even fewer. But I'd say it saves 100% of the people that come here and stick to the methods. That's all that there is control of.
