I am in the same situation and I want to reconcile as well but I understand that it's impossible because of the way the divorce is structured here in America, let me explain this. A midlife crisis lasts between 2 and 5 years for a woman and this is just the reality. A divorce lasts here in the US between 3 months (without children) and 9 months (with children). This makes it impossible to reconcile because the divorce moves faster than the midlife crisis. In other countries like Indonesia, or Thailand for instance it takes between 5 and 10 years to get divorced, and the result is that divorce rates are very low there. What can we do here in the US? Nothing. We need to accept the divorce without trying to stop it, BUT because we know that the crisis will end at some point, we need to be patient and wait for our wives to come back to us on their own, without us pushing them. Lots of men who previously wanted to reconcile make the huge mistake of starting to look for other girls after the divorce is finalized here in the US, and that just kills any chance for reconciliation. I will wait for my wife to come back for at least 5 more years, that's my plan, I won't give up, I won't call her or text her and I won't look for other girls, and hopefully, after she is done with her midlife crisis, she will come back to me on her own. Hugs.
