Originally Posted By: CT1118 I am trying to hang in there and see how that affects her A.
I have a very different opinion about the "hanging in there". First of all, it has no positive affect on her affair. If anything, she will pursue the affair as long as your actions are telling her that you are still there for her.
I believe it shortens the affair, considerably, if the WW sees she is losing the man she took for granted and treated badly. The longer he sticks around, the less she cares. My question is......what does he need to do to cause her to think she's losing him?
I am not saying the man has to go straight to divorce, if he doesn't want it. There are other ways of getting her to think she is losing him.
CT, you are thinking like a man...........not a woman, and especially a wayward woman! You could probably do the opposite of what you think and get a closer hit to her mindset.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
