Let me just say - why did I even bother with 'divorce busting'? 'DB' just seems to prolong the suffering, it would have just been easier to go full 'no contact' as soon as the BD. In fact just going 'full no contact' would probably be healthier psychologically and more effective than the whole mental jiu jitsu of 'DB'.
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16