So glad you came by to post on RL's thread. I do hope that things get straightened out soon so that you and your son can enjoy the rest of the summer. I'm keeping you and your son in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Oh Vanilla! I'm so sorry, I know that must break your heart, but it made me laugh and laugh. What the hell is wrong with these guys?
RIT indeed! Actually RT's grandparents were from Korea, so she's really a RKT LOL
And guess what - she got her wish. They actually got married last week. She was reportedly a little upset to learn that it will take her another $900 and another year to get a green card. My ex says she is upset because she wants to be able to go back to Russia and get her finances in order (wouldn't she have done that before moving here???) but I suspect it's because she is not totally happy living in his elderly mother's attic with him and wants to be free to leave him
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
You know the old saying...be careful what you ask for? Well, RT got exactly what she asked for...a ring on the finger (even if it's not real), a marriage to an American and leaving the good life (even if it is in the attic). LOL! The country wants to make certain that this marriage is real and that's why she has to wait a year. In some cases, they send out investigators to confirm that they are really man and wife and living as a couple in a real marriage and not just as roommates.
As for going back to the USSR to get her finances in order, she should have done that before she came to the US. Sounds to me like she's not happy at all and wants to return to her country and live until the year is almost up and then return here to get that green card. Then again, she might have now realized that her "sweet pea" isn't wealthy and doesn't have a place of his own.
I'm glad you are free of this situation and can now sit back and enjoy your new life. The grass for them, isn't always greener on the other side and boy, his little plot of grass is turning browner by the day. I pity your former MIL...she's got a mess on her hands over there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
She trolls the expensive golf hotels in Europe looking for rich men to open her legs to.
Apparently there have been three.
She thinks (probably because smart arse has told her) that he is rich or will be when he gets his D settlement.
Trouble is smart arse is tapped out and living with her because he has gambled and spent everything. Our M was very short so it won't be much if anything.
What Princes we married, and so highly funny to find the OWs ending up with the real booby prize.
One day maybe we can meet IRL and we can swap bat sh1t crazy stories. When I first came here, I decided your story was the most loco (sorry) even over 25 going Alaskan. Now I look in the mirror and think mine is just as nuts.
Sadly mine isn't over, we have high conflict D to come, watch this space for more attempts at gaslighting.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Oh dear Vanilla, poor ole RIT is in for a big surprise
The thought of the gold digging scammers getting scammed themselves makes me laugh.
My ex portrayed himself to all of his online girlfriends as a very successful businessman, even though he hasn't worked since 1994, and I supported us. Job hit the nail on the head, I think. RT was probably horrified to learn my ex supports himself by doing odd jobs and living rent-free with his mom. RIT will be facing the same dilemma soon!
What are the divorce laws like in the UK for dividing marital and pre-marital property? Is there a chance your ex could be granted half of your assets?
As for us meeting in real life, that would be lovely!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Since OW assets and income will figure in my D fins I want this to go the distance so it is.
Difference here is this RIT is relatively well off, whereas as RT is when all is said and done living in an attic in her MILS house.
Very short M, he will get something and it may be offset by his future need. As he is living with OW7 (RIT) then this will be taken into account. So I am told. Maybe I should seek maintenaince?
If this is it we can laugh until our sides ache.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
