My two cents... I consider myself very well detached, and not expecting to get back into R with my W at all (I have to assume, she will not make the changes that will be required for me to re-commit)... With that said, I've turned down several "good opportunities" (not sure if that's the right verbiage or not), but I've declined several "meet new girls" and "dates" simply due to the fact that I don't want to complicate my own life and my personal progression right now. I'm not "in need" of seeking a female companion at the moment, so why bother with complications of possibly hurting my own growth, or hurting the OW when I've decided I'm not ready for another R, or I change opinion on my W...
You've done the right thing in being fully open to OW about your situation, and I'm sure she's aware that things 'could' go bad if you all date a bit... but OW will not be able to control her feelings for you if they surface. She will act on those feelings and you'll be stuck in an entirely new sitch that involves yet another emotionally motivated woman... I'm not saying don't do it. I'm not saying do it. I'm just offering my opinion on the possible complications related to dating...
