Losing control, I need to let go (3)

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It has been 2 months since you came to this community looking for advice and ideas.
2 months.
In that time you have shared a desperation to save your M and family unit.
Just like that you are ready to move on?
What do you want out of going on a date with someone that as you say " for the record knows your sitch"?
Kyle, I have stayed quiet for a bit, because I watch you ask for advice and then do much the opposite of what is shared from many experienced DBers, but this is advice you must heed.
IMHO darknes is telling you do not do this in a very calm manner by tapping you with the 2x4.
No disrespect to darknes as he has shared top notch advice and support in this community, but he is being much to gentle in his suggestions to you.

I have to say this with a bit more force and a slegehammer to try and wake you up.
Stay away from that poor lady. You are in no position to offer her anything in your current state, and all you would be doing is taking from her emotionally. And the fact that she supposedly knows your sitch but may be interested in you would show some lack of potential emotional maturity of expectations on her part. Is that really how you want to start a new relationship. There are some good reasons that rebound relationships and second marriages fall part more frequently than the first marriages. Think about . Read DR and is illustrates the error of not getting yourself in order before moving on. You still have a lot of work to do for yourself and would do well to put in some time and reading for this.
I know a majority would agree with this advice and I hope the 2x4's will show up here for you and that you heed the advice.

You are a grown man and will do what you decide, but I do hope you begin to listen up to the folks you are seeking advice from.
Good luck brother!
I will step back and remain silent unless you ask for my thoughts.
Be well. I hope you can find peace, balance and some love for yourself.