Hi surfer, anxiety and over thinking are crippling! We want to do the right thing and think we have the answer figured out until reality strikes and we're forced to see it another way. Since she is the ww, she is the one with the most issues and will be all over the map. My WH is most unreachable and unreasonable when he's in a shame spiral and it shows on his face and bodily. He also stays away more or withdraws more. I think he thinks he's protecting me from him, it's been his style. If I pursue or push to talk it only serves me and causes him to lash out or ignore me and I'm not sure which is worse ( which does not serve me but injures me further). I guess we are walking wounded with I spouses who are wounded and broken just in a different way. I know you want to fix things with her and right know you can't, neither of us can fix our sitch and it's hard to swallow. I'm sorry this is a hard time for you too. Take care of you, especially while she's on holiday.
Me54 WH48 S18 D16 M 22 T 24 EA-PA-EA 2011-2015 Separated 10/14 - 06/15 BD1 02/14 BD2 05/16 BD3 08/21/16 and began drinking again Working on me and liking me again
