I am staying away from alligators though, right away. Might eat me.
Zues I wanted to tell you that legal systems work against the partner who has assets. I understand that usually that is the higher earner and mainly male.
In my sitch that's me, this xWH cheated with at least 7 OW, was abusive, gambled, smoked, drank and spent everything he had. Lives in Italy with Maggotroni2 now referred to as RIT (in honor of Rosalindas WH Russian Tramp). Doesn't want to D, tell me where he lives and is suing me for half of the assets, all of which I had before I met him. Isn't that injustice?
He lies, manipulates, sends threatening letters because I won't fund his lifestyle.
It's the various legal systems that do this and in honor of cash. Well not this honey, I am saying no to paying away assets. There are no kids involveD so why should I pay to a man who won't work?
I offered a walkaway deal, xWH from a fake UK address says no.
I will get there Zues and unlike those who complain am trying to rebuild my life.
And I will let you into a really big secret, I have lady bumps too.
At 62 I am starting my life again. And it's glorious.
How do I feel about xWH, well yes I still love him but I love me more. Would I ever repair an R with xWH, absolutely not, that boat has sailed.
It suits me xWH has RIT, it will mean his settlement is less. However he is trying to lie about it so that is tough. Long live RIT!
OWS are glorious if they are well off, so watch out Zues the fat lady hasn't sung yet on the Fins. And I suspect not on yours either if your xWH is a smart cookie then a rich OM is on the horizon.
The most important thing I see for Zues is his family, mum dad and your children. No money can ever replace that. Like you Zues I am blessed with love in my family and it fills my heart with joy.
You have something most would envy, a loving family, happy kids, career and a loyal heart.
So what to do about exes?
Let them go, play in their sandpit. I wish mine well I really do, I hope he and RIT love staying in Italy and never come to the UK. I recently saw their photo on FB all puffed up in classic pose and I felt nothing. Zilch zero Nada, not even a wave of sadness or even triumph.
You know I would not have wanted this for myself or anyone, but there is growth and wisdom in it. It has opened my eyes and anyone who reads from my early threads can see the confused hurting woman struggling with her sitch moving forward to a semi confident lass who is working on who she is. I see this to in Zues.
There are times you and I have different views on the world, and from you I have learned that anger (when I find it) is my friend and a great motivator.
So Zues I reach out in this funny Internet world to you as a friend and tell you there is much to admire and respect in Zues. That is as it should be when you offer friendship.
This world is small and there are pockets of growth and folks working on their stuff, this site is one of those.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
