Okay, I am going to ask several questions, to get a better picture of your W and the MR. Has your W basically had the same personality since you M her? Does she have major mood swings?

In order for you to feel you were making your W happy, would you put aside what you thought was best.......or what you wanted.....and give your W whatever she wanted? Did she pretty much have her way since you've been M?

Over the years, did you feel that she was constantly seeking that one thing that was going to make her happy? As if there was an empty spot her that could not be satisfied for very long? Like, she would get something she thought she wanted.....but then lose interest in it.

You sound like a very devoted father, and it is good that your little girls have you. How long did your W take off work when the babies were born? Did she have depression after they were born?

One more question for now. How was your sex life, before she had the affair and took off this last time?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!