Just reporting so when I look back I can remember how far I have come. Went to see a friend, then decided to stop by SIL as I felt bad to be in same village and not seeing her.
Had a good chat with her and she answered few questions I had. Was she telling me the truth or not but it was what I wanted to hear. None of my IL have met OW, and she said that so far they have no intention to do it. Maybe later on, but I know that there will be a time when it will happen. H hasn't mentioned anything about D with her, but he told her that he has no intention to remarry (that is what he also told me). I now understand why he won't file as he can say to OW he can't marry her because he is still married to me. She also told me that I should give up hope of us getting back together and move on with my life. She asked me if I really wanted H back, and if I was, would I trust him because of all his deceit, lies and wouldn't I always wonder where he is. She also told me that OW is my H choice but she believes that what goes around comes around. She also said that H loves me but not enough to reconcile. She added that he feels guilty for being such a bastion but I shouldn't expect an apology from him as H would never admit he was wrong. She doesn't speak highly of OW ( knowing that she is friend with her brother for about 10 years now!). She has also said to H not to move in OW and find both of them disrespectful to put stuff on FB about their happiness!
As a whole I needed her to tell me this as I don't want to be bitter with H; on the other hand I needed someone from his family to tell me that I should stop hoping! How I feel about it? Sad but I have noticed the changes in me and I'm more aware of the interaction in a marriage, so whoever comes next will fully benefit from my growth. Don't think I'll be able to say this about H!
