I'll dig around and see where the posts are from sandi2. I know V's posts are in my threads and I have read it from sandi2 in several different places.
Keep researching and learning about detaching. I plan to make a detailed post about this as I have really been researching it myself. A key thing that is coming to light is detaching has several meaning and some are good while others are not. But my short point for now is look at detaching as a verb, not a noun. It is an action, not a place, nor a feeling. It takes effort. Regular, focused, actionable effort, to be detached. Think on that as you seek out information and answers. I really truly believe this is the key ingredient to being successful in every other aspect of Dbing.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine