The lie continues...

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OK, this is an awkward one. I was just informed (earlier tonight) that WW is going to TX for 5 days to see her family (mother passed 15+ years ago, father/brother & his family still alive) and that she is taking S4. And then I was told that my father in law bought a tix so that I could come along. As part of the WW lies, I know FIL was told WW and I separated, but not the reasons why (I've stated above WW has been lying to friends/me about the A continuing, but family was not told about A to start with - took about 1 minute for me to figure that out on FB when we separated - they just think we are having "trouble").

Time for exposure has not arrived IMO. I have known this man for 22 years and known him as a father figure when my own was not available (part of what made WW close when we were teens was her F'kd up family taking me in from my F'kd up family - please keep in mind WW & I dated for 2 years as teens, broke up, dated in early 20's and broke up, lost contact for 10 years and M'ed at 35 years old when we found each other again - now both 41).

Given my current sitch I am highly inclined to not attend, but I really want to see this man. And if WW and I decline further in our R (which I am honestly not certain of yet) I will not see him for some time (lets be real, S4 is his grandson and as MWD states, w/a C the married couple is in it for life, D/M regardless).

The trip is in 2.5 weeks. I am 29 days from 6 months of knowing A was real & calling out the A to my W who then 1 day later became WW, 8 months from when I traced it to PA, and 10 months from when I traced an EA.

I tentatively accepted and I did so thinking his is my chance to say goodbye in person to a family I have known all my life, even if I won't directly say goodbye I would do so in my heart.
Initial thought was to decline and state I will call FIL and tell him honestly why I cannot attend, but as I said above, WW was not honest w her father (he would advocate for me), but exposure does not feel like the correct choice now. I also feel like I want to suck it up and go - understand, for no other reason than to say goodbye to my FIL and WW's family as they love me and I have love for them.
This is some very confusing Sh!t to happen across tonight as my 180's seem to have been working otherwise this week.

Dmnit. Advice...