This much I know is true

[albac]

I don't post much but the last few posts relate a lot to what I have seen in the last 6 months when my W walked out.

I agree a lot with Doodler, I believe that detaching from something you care so much about is an almost impossible task and even if you think you are detaching it is more then likely an illusion that just makes you feel that way. This is just my opinion.

However in the last 3 days since my W told me she is seeing someone I feel absoloutely no desire to contact her in anyway. There is some anger but mostly I look at everything objectively and try not to let my heart take control of what I do. If my W can see someone else while we are still married and only separated 6 months, she doesn't love me and she doesn't value marriage the same way I do. These are simple facts but undeniable.

So for me now until she comes to me and says I made a huge mistake I was confused I really want to work on or marriage, (and this is probably less then a 1% chance) I am moving on with my own life without her. It does not mean I will be cold, or angry and vindictive it just means for now she made her choice and she is going to have to live with it just like I am.

Sorry for the ramble and I'm not trying to hi-jack just me spewing out the things I have been thinking.