I've bounced back and forth on "db principles" just for the sake that I lost my urge to "win my wife back"... I stick to the ones that I believe are relavent to me: the 180s that I think I need to improve on, the GAL and the reconnecting with my true, authentic self, which I lost in the madness of years of rejection and criticism while being in R with my W... She killed the authentic betterm, and I'm guilty of letting her do it...
I stick to those raw principles, which an occasionally completely ridiculous derailing that makes her think I'm absolutely nuts, which is good for me, because I like having fun like that. I play tricks, goof around, make jokes, and she doesn't understand it because I should be jumping through hoops for her... since SHE's the one that was hurt and betrayed... She doesn't realize that I'm hurt through this too, and I need a little joy in my life. I'm trying to find myself too, and if that means I want to tell her I'm gonna leave teeth marks in her a$$ next time I see her... then that's what I'm gonna do.
