Did Not See It - But Should Have

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[This is rubbish... sounds like something a weak-willed person would say to put blame on someone else for their misfortunes. Mental health, outside of genetic/chromosomal, is something that we each choose to handle within ourselves. She's basically saying her mental health and her happiness was laid solely as a responsibility of someone else (you).

My thoughts exactly. I told my D that if what my W posted was true then no one would survive emotional abuse. The whole world would be a nutcase. I was emotionally abused by my stepdad and I think I've moved on from that. The last time I talked to my W I told her all her friends must think I'm the coldest guy alive and because all they hear is your side. She denied it, but I heard her talk horribly about her friends husbands so I can only imagine what she's said to them about me.

I'm not making excuses, I'm guilty of my share of emotional neglect as well. I never saw the actions I did as neglect WHILE I was committing them, as whenever my W reached out to "tell me how she's feeling", she did it in a way that was insulting, demeaning, or attacked who I was as a person... naturally, those to things mixed together don't mesh well, and you end up with a spouse who thinks they've "done everything they can" to reach out, and the "neglector" as just shoved it all aside, which is rarely true in circumstance... Our MC pointed this out, and the day it was pointed up, my W decided she was no longer interested in MC...

I was the same way, but the difference between our Ws was my wife rarely reached out to me. She clamed up and didn't say much of anything and that made me angrier.

You're W is throwing out everything she can to the public to gain the support of others in what she is doing is right, and YOU are the devil! Really, all she's doing is piling on her own guilt and worry and making things 'mentally/emotionally' worse for herself... What kind of person posts that crap out to the public eye anyways? One who's unsure of themselves and looking for answers to justify herself in any way she can... horrible.

If this is what she is doing, and I have no real reason to doubt, it would so unlike her. She keeps her health concerns really private. She doesn't even tell her mother when she goes into surgery.

But W is doing a lot of things that were so unlike her.