A new crossroad reached

[mleigh4]

sotto, job, 2T and HW, thank you for your well wishes! Vacation has been wonderful.

H arrived on Sunday, 1/2 hour late but that was expected. We laughed about the bags of food and supplies I had for a 3 day trip. We were prepared for a month, a natural disaster or a shelter in place! H said he was not surprised and loaded everything into his truck, he offered to drive.

We arrived at the beautiful beach house on a bluff overlooking my beautiful ocean. I was in heaven. It was pretty perfect and exactly what I needed. I was out on the deck enjoying the view and noticed the neighbor out on his. I introduced myself, the new friendlier M who now loves to meet new people, and we chatted. H came out looking for me and we all started chatting. The neighbor commented that it had been foggy for weeks and cleared up as soon as we got there. H laughed that we normally have that effect. Honestly, we are always very lucky with weather on our trips and that played true on this one, the sun stayed out every day.

We spent the time going on walks and playing. H and I spent hours on the deck with binoculars watching for dolphins, whale spouts and watching the fishing boats. We enjoyed the sunset every evening with cocktails and music. We cooked delicious meals and mainly relaxed. In fact, the first day, all of us took a 3 hour nap together on the bed, including dog. I think we all needed that sea air and relaxation. We only went down to the beach a couple of times, the trek down was very steep and exhausting! Dog LOVED it! S got a bit anxious when she would go near the water but soon realized she was fine. We found some perfect sand dollars too. H took his drone out and got some beautiful footage of the ocean, the houses and the farm land surrounding us.

There was no R talk or affection, but a very peaceful, comfortable vibe between us. H did show some thoughtfulness by bringing me coffee and putting on my favorite music at times. The times I would take dog for a quick walk to have some me time, here he would come. I made a point of remembering his fear of being invisible so I decided to give him the same attention as I give my S. That made it easy for me and H seemed to appreciate it.

The time went fast and we were packing up to leave. Now, here is where I got a bit annoyed and tested. We had to be out by 11 or would be charged more for every 15 minutes, according to the house rules. I was running around like a mad woman basically doing everything on my own while H took a long time in the bathroom then a shower. S did help with what he could. When it got to be 10:45 I called H through the door, saying I needed his help. He came right out and was asking for orders. I was a bit flustered by then, but remained calm and stated what he could do. It ended up working out, and I did not blow up like the old M would, but I felt it was really selfish that he did not help more. Then he had the nerve to give S a bad time for not helping more. I wish I had spoken up to that, but was really distracted with getting the house in order at the time.

We were on our way. I was back in my happy place, and H wanted ice cream so we stopped off to get some on the way home.

When I got home, kitty had not been seen by my friend that was coming to feed her. She did not come home all night, but was there in the morning, thank goodness. I was worried sick by then. Now, she has not let me out of her sight! lol

Overall the trip was nice, I was happy that H joined us. He made for a lot of laughter and fun times. He really is a big kid. At one point, he wanted me to ride his motorized bike. I tried to get on it, but it is a boy bike with the bar and high up, I am only 5 feet tall. So H assured me that the brakes work good if I want to stop quickly, he kept pushing me, telling me how fun it is. After trying to get on it, I calmly assured him that it seems really fun, but with being so small, even when I brake the bike, my legs can't reach the ground and that makes me really uncomfortable. To explain the reason, instead of just getting annoyed with it, like the old me would have done, seemed to help him understand why I would not ride the bike. I am learing new ways to express myself with him, in hopes that he understands where I am coming from.

I still have a few days remaining before going back to work and I am still in total relax mode. This has been a wonderful time off and I am loving it.

S, who does not like to leave home and travel, seemed to enjoy the beach house, he said it was much better having dog with him, so this may be our new vacation theme.

H has S right now, so its lunch time, then a nap. What am I doing to do without daily naps again?

xxoo